Happy happy new year GDQs!!!
I’m so excited about the new year and I hope you are too.
I’ll be regular here so roll with me, and grab all your friends who are GDQs too.
Today, I wanna quickly talk about interpreting meaning behind behavior…
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I’ve been reading James Dobson’s books for a while now and I love this post from DARE TO DISCIPLINE
The art of good parenthood revolves around the interpretation of meaning behind behavior…

This quote is so deep that I want to camp here a while by telling a story
I am a mom of 2 boys, 1 almost 5 and the other 2.
As most MOB moms notice, boys touch/fondle/play with their private parts
I’ve spoken to quite some moms who beat, shame, or condemn their toddlers cos of it.
But that’s normal.
Absolutely normal.
A normal part of their development, while is self discovery.
Beating him is frankly useless.
You can gently correct and guide him but don’t make a big deal of a normal development
So the behavior is not what we judge ; it is the MEANING behind that behavior, which is self discovery.
I like what JD said in another of his books as he mentioned this briefly..

My second son is particularly funny cos he will just open his penis and be shaking it at us… while smiling mischievously.
I’ve learned to gently correct him and unlook.
If I make a big deal of it, he will be tempted to keep doing it.
He is not being sexual, he is walking in a development stage called self discovery
It’s not the behavior, it’s the meaning behind behavior which I interpreted and acted on…
Let me share another
If I shout on or spank my first son, he typically says something and for him, that something has to pain me lol
So one thing he says is usually against the Bible or a spiritual discipline
Eg, he can say something like
Mummy, I dont like to read my bible, or
Mummy, I dont like to share
Now, what he says is not as important as the reason or meaning behind his words….
He is upset, so he is trying to do something to upset me.
He knows I love to teach him from the bible so if he says something about it, it should pain me like what I did to him pained him.
If he knows I like him to watch cartoon and keep quiet, then he can say something related to that…
Mummy I will not watch my cartoon again
Or
Mummy I will not eat my food again
The behavior is one thing, but the meaning behind it shows me where my values are with him
Instead of being angry with him, I am like Eziaha, you are doing a great job abeg…
Forget what the boy is saying and take a minute to enjoy the fruit of your parenting.
Your son knows it is a Jesus related thing that is the most important to me.
How do we interpret behavior correctly ?
Sis, by reading.

Please this is the year we are intentional about parenting and commit to reading.
You dear GDQ are a READING MOM
Reading removes confusion, ma.
Reading makes parenting more interesting.
Reading enriches your domestic life.
Babes, let’s read
On my personal blog www.eziaha.com, I did a list of my January reads
Check it out here
Also I did a blog here on how to be a reader at home.
Also check it out here
If you have questions on reading which I didnt cover in those posts, let me know in the comments
Reading is also fun with friends. I have a group of ladies I read a book a month with… It also helps us stay accountable
Please sis, let’s be intentional moms this year
I’m rooting for you and I cant wait to see the upturns in your life as you read intentionally and apply with wisdom
Love you and also praying for you
Eziaha

Thank you for this. I like the fact that you used practical examples. Thank you.
Hey sis. Thankful the Holy spirit opened my eyes to those relatable examples
Interpreting the meaning behind the behaviour…hmmm interesting…great post mama
Sonia baby girl lol
Hmmm…this was really appreciated as a follow MOB.. well done ma’am
Hey MOB mom. My pleasure sis
Hello Eziaha,
Such great post, amazing books and insightful write up since I am also a MOB mom.
James Dobson is such a great writer on parenting and family.
I am so with you on a journey of reading this year, very vital for moms who want to live exceptionally.
And I started the year by setting the #ReadingBooksFromOurShelvesIn2020 for my virtual book club for moms(@mumsbookclubng). And also the #ReadWithVickyChallenge2020ForMums where we are reading the bible in one year and 365 things every parent should know on parenting by Doug Fields.
Let me now hurry to see the other links you included as well as subscribe to your YouTube channel because it is me and you this year o! 😃
Happy New Year.
Wow! This is awesome. Am with on this sis
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Thank you o . This is total deliverance for me. .my second son used to fondle with his peepe or sometimes my nipple which I have beat him and I still do whenever he does that. At a point I was bothered even though I have control over Thier tv content at home. K can’t help to wonder maybe he learnt it somewhere even though he his just two going three. But your post just liberated me. Thank you so much. Always a pleasure reading from you
What’s peepe? Please teach him the right name sis
I love this write up very educative. Thank you E
You’re welcome
Hi there! Would you mind if I share your blog with my myspace group?
There’s a lot of folks that I think would really appreciate your content.
Please let me know. Thanks
Please go ahead, while referencing the Blog.
Thank You.